The children now love luxury; they have bad manners, contempt for authority; they show disrespect for elders and love chatter in place of exercise. Children are now tyrants, not the servants of their households. They no longer rise when elders enter the room. They contradict their parents, chatter before company, gobble up dainties at the table, cross their legs, and tyrannize their teachers.
Well, We all know that if a kid doesn’t like the teacher, he stops learning or if a kid trusts his teacher, he starts to do something for the lesson. Parents also know that sometimes their kids misbehave because they think their parents ignore them. So every act in a class or at home can be a hint for the teacher or the parent to evaluate themselves and change certain things.
Rapport is defined as ‘a good understanding of someone and an ability to communicate well with them’ (Cambridge Dictionary online) Communiaction is a mutual thing. If we move one step further, the other person will need to move too. If we move 2 steps further, he will at least move one step towards us.
As a teacher or a parent, we should find ways to build rapport or establish good communication with the kids.
This shouldn’t mean getting approval or being liked or becoming the most popular teacher in the school. You can be cool, trendy but the relationship between you and your students can be so artificial. A good relaship between you and your students can be the result of certain things which were done to gain confidence. If the student understands the teacher cares for him, he surely will try to change himself.
How to establish good relationship with your students:
First impressions are important. Even at a workshop, seminar or a performance, we always remember the beginning and the ending. Thus, from the first day you meet your students everything you do counts.
We can keep the followings in mind before we prepare ourselves for our classes:
- Explain yourself. Let them know they will have limits- if they know your rules, they will play the game according to the rules.
- Encourage your students
- Motivate and support them when needed.
- Praise them -even we need praise and we feel unhappy when we don’t get it.
- Be prepared and well-planned (they see the difference very well)
- Be enthusiastic about teaching- enthusiasm is infectious,
- Respect them, listen to them- if they understand you regard them as a human-being, they will feel they are also important.
- Behave each student equally- all of them learn at different speeds and all of them have different learning styles. Read more to learn more.
- Make eye-contact and learn their names from the very first day of the class.
- Smile as much as possible, be cheerful and energetic
- Be creative and enhance their creativity
- Bring the world to the classroom.
- Do something enjoyable at any level of the lesson – a warmer, filler or a game…
I’m not a teacher: only a fellow-traveler of whom you asked the way. I pointed ahead — ahead of myself as well as you.
-George Bernard Shaw
Great points about good classroom practice and rapport. I read something the other day about shaking teenagers hands on the first day of course and the importance of eye contact in helping children feel valued. Smiling is infectious and being horrible to someone who is nice to you is much more difficult.
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Thanks for your contribution. Eye contacy really works even at home with my kids. Being at the same level when talking is an other idea maybe we can use in class as it also helps with my kids. And you’re right if a person is good to you it is really difficult to be ‘horrible’ to that person.
Let’s keep talking 🙂
Great post, Eva, with a lot of practical insights that are spot-on with what works in class.
I totally agree the beginning is so important to grab the attention of new students. I find the first few minutes are absolutely crucial in establishing the way to the future. If you are able to grab and hold the attention of your students, the rest will follow easily. If you start off on the wrong footing for whatever reason, all is not lost. You can regain control, but it will take a little bit longer to establish a great rapport.
With your excellent tips, however, a teacher can’t go wrong!